1. When you are mad at mommy and throw down a glass bowl
a. it shatters into 3 zillion pieces
b. it makes mommy even more angry
2. Running immediately to your room screaming "I didn't mean to" and "I'm sorry" works because mommy realizes you knew you made a mistake.
I gave him 5 minutes by himself then went to his room. Conversation once in room...
"Cory, do you understand what you did was wrong?"
"Yes ma'am."
"Cory is that what we do when we are angry? What do we do?"
"No, we use our words not our hands."
"Do you understand that broken glass can hurt you?"
"Yes ma'am."
Do you understand that the money I was going to use to buy you a new toy this weekend will now be spent on new bowls for the kitchen?"
"but mommy.....yes ma'am."
(insert lots of hugs here)
I am a very proud mama. I only once raised my voice (when kids were trying to come in to help clean up glass) and steered clear of time outs or physical punishments.
Mommy's lesson learned today: using logic and empathy with a 4 year old works!
a. it shatters into 3 zillion pieces
b. it makes mommy even more angry
2. Running immediately to your room screaming "I didn't mean to" and "I'm sorry" works because mommy realizes you knew you made a mistake.
I gave him 5 minutes by himself then went to his room. Conversation once in room...
"Cory, do you understand what you did was wrong?"
"Yes ma'am."
"Cory is that what we do when we are angry? What do we do?"
"No, we use our words not our hands."
"Do you understand that broken glass can hurt you?"
"Yes ma'am."
Do you understand that the money I was going to use to buy you a new toy this weekend will now be spent on new bowls for the kitchen?"
"but mommy.....yes ma'am."
(insert lots of hugs here)
I am a very proud mama. I only once raised my voice (when kids were trying to come in to help clean up glass) and steered clear of time outs or physical punishments.
Mommy's lesson learned today: using logic and empathy with a 4 year old works!
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